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zvercica
19.09.2012, 12:56
Evo jednog zanimljivog pogleda na razliku između američkih i srpskih tinejdžera kroz oči jedne amerikanke udate za srbina:

How do Serbian and American Teenagers Differ?



A Serbian-American reader of this blog just wrote in to ask about Serbian parenting and how teens differ between the two countries. It seems her husband, a Serb, does not like the Serbian style and would like to raise their children in a Western fashion...

I'm not an expert on Serb teens, aside from having had two step-children in their teens myself, and having met plenty of Serb teens in Sombor and Belgrade. So I'd love you guys to post your opinions.

In my experience Serb teens:

- Expect to live at home through college and well beyond (unless they are from small towns like Sombor where many dream of shaking that country-dust off their boots and moving to Belgrade ASAP.) I've seen data that even by the age of 45, many Serbs still live with their parents. This is both culturally and economically based.

- Are far thinner and have better posture than their American counterparts, due to less junk food and TV/computer slouching. They eat home-cooked meals most days, not fast food (which is more expensive than what's in the kitchen), and like to stroll about town showing off their glory.

- Don't get steady allowances (cash from parents) but rather occasional, irregular, gifts of money when the mood strikes a relative to hand them something. This means they may not have a chance to learn to budget or handle wages before they are on their own. But then they won't be on their own for a long, long time.

- Have cell phones (that they live on) but not credit cards.

- Share bedrooms with siblings and share single bathrooms with their entire, often extended, family.

- Dress up in a somewhat more formal way than US teens. Europeans in general don't do casual dress in public the way Americans do.

- The girls wear more make-up, often far far more, than US teens would ever consider. The expression "troweling it on" might be used. Same for perfume.

- Are more likely to have at least experimented with heroin, which is more readily available. While Americans are more likely to be on medication for ADD.

- Grew up with daily social drinking at home, unlike American teens who binge secretly at teen parties.

- Dream of international travel and jobs overseas. I doubt the majority of US teens have passports or can locate most countries on a world map. Provincialism, thy name is America.

- Are strongly bigoted against gays, while the majority of US teens surveyed think gays are normal, should be able to get married, etc.

- Speak a foreign language enough to get by, usually English or German. American teens are often required to learn a foreign language in school, but for fewer years and rarely take it remotely seriously. (That is except for immigrant's children and those born in close-knit Hispanic-American communities.)

- Hope to have a career someday, but don't assume they will be lucky enough to land a job and be promoted. The economy is too stinky for self-assurance. US teens on the other hand blithely assume that by the age of 30 they'll be making good money and own cars, homes, etc.

- May not have a driver's license, and certainly not a car. If there's an "old banger" in the family, their parents are still driving it. American teens often get cars as gifts in High School or college.

- Are deeply interested in meeting people from other cultures and places. Most American teens would be automatically friendly to someone from another country (frankly unlike many Croatians I've met) but aren't aggressively interested in the opportunity.

- Grew up in a culture in 1990s-2000 where criminals and government leaders were often seen as the only people who had success. Most American kids would not consider either as worthy of a career choice. Maybe a fallback position, but not a great one.

- Strongly prefer an apartment (stan) to a house and Belgrade to the countryside. American teens range the gamut from loving small towns with white picket fences to New York City.

- Don't take college class attendance as seriously as Americans, mainly because it's not always required and exams are far fewer and more spaced out. Also, of course, college is largely free.

- Hope to get by in life. Americans all secretly believe if you try hard enough and dream, you can be all you want to be.

In my experience, Serbian parents of teens tend to:

- coddle their adult children, treating them more softly in many ways than American parents would ever consider. In the US, you are a separate, independent adult very early on (as early as 14 in some upper class niches, as late as 22 in others.) In Serbia, you're a [protected child for eons.

- have absolutely zero sense of humor about outsiders' remarks about their children, and zero capacity to ever hear any criticism of their child. This is hard in all human cultures, but carried to an extreme in Serbia sometimes I think.

- don't have high expectations of their children's future. Hope they'll get by. Not because the kids aren't capable, but rather again due to the economy.

- allow children to do whatever after school-activities they desire on their own, but won't drive them around for this purpose, and won't enroll them in special summer camps or classes (except perhaps a language class.)

- assume they will pay for in whole or part (as much as possible) each child's first bought apartment. Sometimes sell a large apartment and buy several smaller ones from the proceeds so kids have homes of their own. Americans assume their kids are nearly entirely on their own the minute they hit 18.

source:http://rosemarybaileybrown.blogspot.ca/2011/05/how-do-serbian-and-american-teenagers.html

AllenJohnJohnson
20.09.2012, 14:50
Moj odgovor na blog:
I'm not from Serbia, but in Croatia teens live exactly the same. I agree with most of what you wrote, but still, not everything is true.


We get allowance, but not for fun, but to eat when in school. And most of the high school kids come from villages into town to attend high school. They have to travel every day, and eat in that town, sometimes even live there in a rented appartment. So we learn to be on our own at age of 15.

Naturally teens won't have their DL here, let alone a car. If I would like to get the license, I would have to pay somewhere around $1000 (just for license, not to buy a car.) And gas in Europe i a lot more expensive than in USA, plus the paper work. There is no way teens can afford all that.

Our teens can't be as independent as those in the USA. First of all, there are no jobs for teens. The earliest time to hope to get a job is after graduating from high school. Even in college is hard to get a job. In Osijek, there are 10 thousand students, and only about 50 job offers for students. And even if there was a job for me, I couldn't accept it, because my classes are not in morning, or the afternoon, but spread across the entire day with hour pauses, form 8am to 8pm. There is barely enough time to study.

College is NOT free. I was a student with straight As in elementary and high school, and I even got a scolarship, but my parents already spent all their savings on my college, and my dad has to put aside half of his paycheck, just so I would have something to eat and somwhere to sleep while in college. And that's not some elite college, in Croatia, let alone in Europe. Actually, I think it's a joke.

And when I finish my 5-year college (I'm 21 now, just got out of teen years), I will become a proffessor of English and History (my 2 majors). I hope to get a teaching job at my local elementary school, get monthly pay of about $800, and that will be enough for me to move back to my parents house (my old little room) and contribute to paying the bils. There is no way I'll be able to afford a car before I'm 30, and there is no way in hell I'll be able to get a loan to buy a tiny apartment for myself.
Actually, my parents expect me to come home, marry there, bring my wife in that little room, and start a family there.

While US teens take it for granted to make good money when they are 30 if they work hard enough, we hope just to be able to survive and that our heating won't be cut of in the winter because we couldn't pay the bills..

This is the reality teens here expect to live.

american muscle
20.09.2012, 21:49
ja iskreno mislim da onda nema pojma šta piše!

po ovome šta je ona napisala, ispada kao film, a ne stvarnost!

ja negovorim za američke tinejđere, jer neznam, nisam to prošao, ali ovo što piše za naše, definitivno se nemogu složit!

Zašto jedu brzu hranu? zato jer su ljeni ili neznaju da sebi pripreme jelo!

ma sve u svemu
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